Yesterday I went to the Avery’s Creek YMCA Summer Camp to do a presentation on Bullying. They seem to run a great camp over there, all of the kids were well behaved and participated in the conversation- which is always nice!
We talked about what a bully is, defining a bully as somebody who says or does something mean. They had a lot of good examples of real bullying behavior. We then talked about the three kinds of involvement in bullying- the victim, the bystander, and the bully.
The victim has a few rules to follow. First, you are not allowed to be a human punching bag. If somebody tries to hit you block, cover, dodge- whatever, but don’t let people hit you. Second, tell the person to stop. Third, tell the teacher, then tell your parents. Fourth, create a written record of what happened- it may come in handy in the future.
The bystander also has a few things to take care of. First, if it is within your power to intervene, do so. For example, somebody calls somebody else a bad name you can say, “that wasn’t very nice. Why did you say that?” Then tell your teacher. Second, if it is a more serious situation or of you feel things are beyond your ability to help, skip trying to intervene and just go tell the teacher.
The bully needs to do some rethinking. Sometimes people bully others in an effort to feel more powerful, sometimes people bully others as a bad joke. If you find yourself being a bully because it makes you feel more powerful you need to find a better way to build that feeling of power. Try getting involved in sports. If you just took a joke too far, or started a line of joking around that wasn’t cool to begin with, apologize to the person you were bullying and don’t do whatever you were doing again.
This, in a nutshell is what we talked about. One of the best ways to empower yourself in any of these three roles is to enroll into a quality martial arts program. Having high self esteem and self confidence with humility goes a long way in dealing with these issues, and that is what we specialize in.
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