At the White Oak Martial Arts Center, we do a great deal of things to help kids deal with being bullied. Everything from websites, classroom presentation, to empowerment classes- you name it. One of the things that comes up pretty much every time there is a conversation about bullying is this: what is the difference between tattling and getting help when you need it? Kids are all told not to tattle, so often times they won’t ask for help when they need it because they are confused about the difference.
It’s simple. Tattling is when somebody is doing something that is in no way harmful to you or anybody else and you tell on them anyway. Getting help is when somebody is doing or saying something that is harmful to you or others and you ask an authority figure for help.
Tattling is when the kid next to you in school is doodling and you raise your hand to say, “Mrs. Jones, Bobby is drawing pictures when he should be listening to you.” Getting help is when Bobby calls you a bad name and takes your lunch money, so you privately go to Mrs. Jones and say, “Mrs. Jones Bobby insulted me and then took my lunch money, can you please help me?”
Discuss this with your kids.
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