Posts tagged self defense

Self Defense for the rest of us.

Self defense should not be about paranoia, it should be about mindfulness.  A large part of being mindful is to pay attention to what’s happening around you- good and bad.  If you are being mindful you are aware enough to enjoy a flower blooming, a child laughing, or an evil bad guy about to do some evil bad guy stuff.  I submit to you that by simply paying attention you will see more good things and be better able to avoid bad things.

Another part of being mindful is to be aware of possibilities.  Of course you should have a balanced approach to this as well.  Plan on and focus on the good things in your life, but prepare for the bad ones so you don’ t need to worry about them.  Have a home fire escape plan, have a home bad guy invasion plan, have an estate plan, have personal safety training of some type, all so you don’t have to think about those things very much- you already have a plan and can focus on the positive aspects of your life!

Weapons have been a big deal in the news these days, but in reality your best defense is not what is in your hand, rather it’s what is in your head.  Your plan, your strategy, and your intentions are the real self defense tools.

Ignoring bad things doesn’t make them go away, but having a plan to deal with them allows you to live your life in a much happier place. Practice mindful self defense.

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If you watch this video, you can really see why an education in the martial arts is one of the best things that you can do for your kids.

At the time it was filmed I was really impressed with how well Abir did.  Look at the coordination, discipline, confidence, and focus he displays here.  The thing is, he didn’t start out his education with us like this.  Nobody does.  He worked at it over time and built these qualities in himself.

You and your kids can do the same thing.  I’ve never met anybody anywhere who regretted earning a  Black Belt.

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What does the New Year bring for you?

Are you interested in personal improvement, but….

You’ve been to the gym and it’s good, but there must be more.  You’ve been to fitness classes of various sorts, but still, there must be more.  Maybe you’ve even tried some martial arts classes, but, once again, it still seems like there should be more….

With our Internal Martial Arts programs you can improve your body, your mind, and your spirit in ways that nothing else can. Learn how to maximize your physical power. Learn the truth about what chi is.  Learn the true power of intention.  Learn what spirit level martial arts actually are.  Learn the secrets of the martial arts that few in America can teach.  And the neat thing is that all of this can be applied to real, effective self defense, real mental clarity, and real physical fitness!

This year we will once again be focusing on the secrets of Chinese Internal Martial Arts to improve ourselves- mentally, physically, and spiritually.  I have spent 30 years training martial arts, and have made numerous trips to China, even living there for a while, to learn the highest level of martial arts being taught in the world today.  To be honest, that by itself still wouldn’t be enough.  I was fortunate to be taken in as an indoor student by several teachers, thereby learning the secrets of martial art that make them truly effective.  I will share them with you.

These teachings make a positive difference in the lives of all of our students, and they can do the same for you.

You always hear about all of the great things that martial arts can do you for you, now it’s time to give it a shot.

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Lessons in Mastery: Davidson River Taiko

For our Black Belt students we offer a unique program called “”Lessons in Mastery.”  The concept is simple. What is a master? How do masters think?  What is the path to mastery?

A Master is somebody who perceives themselves and the world around them in a very specific way. It doesn’t matter what somebody is a master of, what is relevant is what they had to do to get there and what they do to stay.

One of the assignments for our students on this quest is to interview a master of something in an effort to figure out what makes them tick.  Here is the assignment.

Porter, one of our Junior Black Belts, choose to speak with a Taiko master.  Here is an example of what he discovered.


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Tattling vs. Getting Help.

At the White Oak Martial Arts Center, we do a great deal of things to help kids deal with being bullied.  Everything from websites, classroom presentation, to empowerment classes- you name it.  One of the things that comes up pretty much every time there is a conversation about bullying is this: what is the difference between tattling and getting help when you need it?  Kids are all told not to tattle, so often times they won’t ask for help when they need it because they are confused about the difference.

It’s simple.  Tattling is when somebody is doing something that is in no way harmful to you or anybody else and you tell on them anyway.  Getting help is when somebody is doing or saying something that is harmful to you or others and you ask an authority figure for help.

Tattling is when the kid next to you in school is doodling and you raise your hand to say, “Mrs. Jones, Bobby is drawing pictures when he should be listening to you.”  Getting help is when Bobby calls you a bad name and takes your lunch money, so you privately go to Mrs. Jones and say, “Mrs. Jones Bobby insulted me and then took my lunch money, can you please help me?”

Discuss this with your kids.

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Here are some other resources on the subject.

http://www.metrokids.com/MetroKids/January-2010/Tattling-Versus-Telling/

http://www.kellybear.com/TeacherArticles/TeacherTip63.html

Time to gear up for summer: Shameless Summer Program Plug!

When school lets out the Summer of Kung fu Awesome begins!

Our class schedule will not change, but we will add in the following events into our regular schedule!

  • Free Ice Cream Days!
  • Ninja Madness! (we’re going to make throwing stars and learn the secrets of how to make your own ninja mask)
  • Kung Fu Panda Day!
  • Lotus Pole of Doom Day!
  • Grill Skillz Day!
  • Popcorn and Kung Fu Movie Night!
  • Build a Lightsaber Day!
  • And much much more!

We’ll also have an end of summer party for everybody who makes all 16 classes during the months of June and July.

And finally we’ll have a Traveling White Oak Shirt Contest with two categories: 1) a picture of you wearing one of our shirts in the farthest away place, and 2) the funniest/coolest thing that you are doing in one of our shirts while on vacation somewhere.

Thanks! It’s going to be a great summer!

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The Free Focus Book

Here is a book that is some of the required reading for our Black Belt program. It is completely free and has some great ideas in it, so I thought I’d post it as I think you’ll enjoy reading it.

The ability to focus is the key to accomplishing whatever it is that you set your mind to doing- for work or play.  Having seen the positive results hundreds of times, I can honestly tell you that an education in the martial arts builds focus incredibly well.

So, here is the book. Enjoy!  Free Focus Book.

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Assignment: Positive Attitiude!

At the White Oak Martial Arts Center in Asheville, NC our students not only learn personal defense skills (everything from how to deal with a bully, negative peer pressure, or violence) but also how to be an ethical person who contributes to society in a positive way.  We want our students to be positive role models for everyone they come into contact with.

In fact, for every belt our students have to be able to apply a physical self defense skill, pass a physical fitness test, and complete a positive character trait task. This past cycle we talked about positive attitude.   Here is a short video showing off some of out students assignments, spot lighting Claudia and Bodhi.


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Shopping Safety.

Here are some things to keep in mind to keep shopping as it should be- fun!

Shopping Safety Tips

1.     Don’t shop alone.

Shopping is always more fun with friends anyway, and there is safety in numbers.

2.     Carry your cell phone and have group meet up times and places.

If your larger group breaks up into smaller groups, make sure that there is a phone in every group. Set up a designated meeting time and place knowing that security will be called if a group is late.

3.     Don’t wear things that somebody would want to steal.

Just wear normal casual clothes.  Don’t wear expensive looking jewelry that would be theft worthy and don’t carry a pocketbook that would be easy to grab.

4.     Walk with purpose, like you are on a schedule.

If you look like you have spare time, you look like you won’t be missed for a little while.

5.     Pay attention to what is happening around you.

Always pay attention!  Be on the lookout for potential bad guys.  If you get a bad feeling about somebody, you are probably right.  Get away and find security.

6.     Don’t carry large amounts of cash.

You can call to report a card if it’s stolen….

7.     Park by a light, lock your car, and get your keys out in the store.

Look under and around your car as you approach, then look in it before you get in.  Have your keys out so you can get
into the car quickly.  If things look bad, go back into the store.

8.     Panhandlers and people who approach you are most likely scammers.

These people mostly want to see the contents of your wallet so their friend can mug you later. They are generally professionals, especially around here.

9.     If you feel threatened, find any store staff member or security.

Any store employee can call security, and any store would be happy to escort you to your car.

10.    If you are in trouble, cause a scene.

Bad guys want things to go down quietly and smoothly. So if somebody tries to hurt you, yell, scream, and generally draw
attention to yourself.

A Thank You Note.

I recently received this awesome thank you note from one of our adult students.

Master Croley,

I want to thank you for helping me in more ways than one and for opening my mind.  I have only attended your classes for two months now and I have benefited physically, mentally, and it has impacted my relationships at work in a positive way. Through your “Black Belt Leadership Program” I have opened my heart to others that I normally wouldn’t have.  I have given with an open heart in hopes to build friendship, especially with one person I’ve had a hard time with at work. The results have been positive. Thank you!

The entire point of an education in the martial arts in to improve yourself, and that means more than just doing push ups.  I am thrilled to hear about our students taking the martial arts mindset and applying it to their lives.

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