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Tattling vs. Getting Help.

At the White Oak Martial Arts Center, we do a great deal of things to help kids deal with being bullied.  Everything from websites, classroom presentation, to empowerment classes- you name it.  One of the things that comes up pretty much every time there is a conversation about bullying is this: what is the difference between tattling and getting help when you need it?  Kids are all told not to tattle, so often times they won’t ask for help when they need it because they are confused about the difference.

It’s simple.  Tattling is when somebody is doing something that is in no way harmful to you or anybody else and you tell on them anyway.  Getting help is when somebody is doing or saying something that is harmful to you or others and you ask an authority figure for help.

Tattling is when the kid next to you in school is doodling and you raise your hand to say, “Mrs. Jones, Bobby is drawing pictures when he should be listening to you.”  Getting help is when Bobby calls you a bad name and takes your lunch money, so you privately go to Mrs. Jones and say, “Mrs. Jones Bobby insulted me and then took my lunch money, can you please help me?”

Discuss this with your kids.

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Here are some other resources on the subject.

http://www.metrokids.com/MetroKids/January-2010/Tattling-Versus-Telling/

http://www.kellybear.com/TeacherArticles/TeacherTip63.html

Black Belt Leaders can ninja on bad guys, but there’s much more….

Our students learn all about dealing with bullies, effective ways to say no to negative influences, and of course how to defend themselves against violence.  However, they also learn how to be contributing members of society, how to be leaders in whatever way is appropriate for them. Here’s what a couple of our Black Belt students did for one of their Lessons in Mastery. Yes, at our school education continues well after you earn your first Black Belt!

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THE SUMARY FOR:

The Charter for Compassion

Compassion means:

Treating people the way you wish to be treated.  “Don’t judge a book by its cover.”  Giving anyone complete justice, respect, and treating them equally as we would care for our family.  Wherever you are, you should always act kindly, avoiding being disrespectful in all ways, and not speaking badly of anyone, including the people we don’t like.  Never miss a chance to be kind and respectful.  Services are a good thing that leads up to compassion.  You do things you want to do, for instance, you go to the store with your parent because you want to, not because you feel you have to.  Helping elders, holding the door for someone, being kind; everything adds up.

We need to eliminate selfishness and bring back compassion and respect.  Selfishness is terrible, because it breaks respect, creates hatred and anger, etc.      Compassion helps a lot of things, and is crucial for human bonds.  It lays out the path to glory and successfulness, and is the ultimate creation of justice.

That is what COMPASSION means.

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Assignment: Positive Attitiude!

At the White Oak Martial Arts Center in Asheville, NC our students not only learn personal defense skills (everything from how to deal with a bully, negative peer pressure, or violence) but also how to be an ethical person who contributes to society in a positive way.  We want our students to be positive role models for everyone they come into contact with.

In fact, for every belt our students have to be able to apply a physical self defense skill, pass a physical fitness test, and complete a positive character trait task. This past cycle we talked about positive attitude.   Here is a short video showing off some of out students assignments, spot lighting Claudia and Bodhi.


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Shopping Safety.

Here are some things to keep in mind to keep shopping as it should be- fun!

Shopping Safety Tips

1.     Don’t shop alone.

Shopping is always more fun with friends anyway, and there is safety in numbers.

2.     Carry your cell phone and have group meet up times and places.

If your larger group breaks up into smaller groups, make sure that there is a phone in every group. Set up a designated meeting time and place knowing that security will be called if a group is late.

3.     Don’t wear things that somebody would want to steal.

Just wear normal casual clothes.  Don’t wear expensive looking jewelry that would be theft worthy and don’t carry a pocketbook that would be easy to grab.

4.     Walk with purpose, like you are on a schedule.

If you look like you have spare time, you look like you won’t be missed for a little while.

5.     Pay attention to what is happening around you.

Always pay attention!  Be on the lookout for potential bad guys.  If you get a bad feeling about somebody, you are probably right.  Get away and find security.

6.     Don’t carry large amounts of cash.

You can call to report a card if it’s stolen….

7.     Park by a light, lock your car, and get your keys out in the store.

Look under and around your car as you approach, then look in it before you get in.  Have your keys out so you can get
into the car quickly.  If things look bad, go back into the store.

8.     Panhandlers and people who approach you are most likely scammers.

These people mostly want to see the contents of your wallet so their friend can mug you later. They are generally professionals, especially around here.

9.     If you feel threatened, find any store staff member or security.

Any store employee can call security, and any store would be happy to escort you to your car.

10.    If you are in trouble, cause a scene.

Bad guys want things to go down quietly and smoothly. So if somebody tries to hurt you, yell, scream, and generally draw
attention to yourself.

Two More Black Belt Leaders!

Congratulations to Zoe Kaplan and Elliot Gualano for earning their first degree Black Belts!  Earning a Black Belt with us is unique.  First of all, they do have to learn all of the moves, forms, techniques and what not.  However, the objective of learning these moves is self defense, not winning trophies.  Therefore, our Black Belt physical exam is based on one simple notion.  Can this person actually defend him or her self in a real self defense scenario?  Can the student improvise and not be forced to do a bunch of dogmatically memorized stuff? It takes more self discipline and self confidence to be creative than to just perform a bunch of memorized stuff.

But on top of knowing what to do, the student must also have a clear understanding of when to do these things.  Obviously we don’t want to have a student who is looking for a fight all the time.  Therefore we spend a great deal of time teaching a simple philosophy of use- use the smallest amount of force necessary to not get hurt, preferably none, with the objective of escape.

However, though there is the possibility of having to defend yourself against a physical attack, other attacks are much more likely- in fact I guarantee that they will take place.  Therefore our self defense curriculum spends a great deal of time working on defense against negative peer pressure, bullies, good nutrition choices, personal fear and self doubt, anger management, effective ways to say no, managing the environment, and many other real life challenges that out kids face every day.

And finally, out students learn a great deal of becoming an effective person.  A Black Belt Leader with us is the kind of person who is not negatively influenced by those around them, rather is a positive influence on those they come in contact with.  Out students learn about honesty, integrity, a positive attitude, gratitude, discipline, respect, self confidence, and a whole lot more.  These topics are taught in every class just like techniques are.  Not only that, but out students are required to actually do things to apply these lessons to their lives for each belt.  We call these tasks.

For Black Belt there is a community leadership task.  This time around Zoe lead a team to clean up the overpass bridge next to an elementary school, while Elliot lead an effort to raise money for gifts for the less fortunate.

Now that they have both earned their first degree Black Belt (and both did an amazing job on every challenge I threw at them) it is time for them to get to work on their second- with a whole new set of challenges!

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How a Black Belt should think.

After one of our students earns a Black Belt, there is still continuing curriculum.  In fact, getting a black belt is kind of like getting your drivers license.  You can drive- but now it’s time to really learn how to do it!  Along with kunging and fuing, the first lesson our Black Belts learn about is Compassion.

Here is what Abir had to say about it.  Please note that he chose to approach this topic from the context of comparative religion but we do not discuss religion in class. With that said, this is an excellent paper discussing the concept of compassion from different perspectives.  I guess it helped him out a little bit that his mother teaches philosophy at UNCA.

Dear Master Croley,

To me compassion is the Golden Rule that is, Treat Others The Way You Want To Be
Treated. Compassion is important in the religions because each religion has the
common value of compassion. For example in Hinduism compassion stands for non-Harmfulness.
In Christianity compassion stands for loving even one’s enemies. In Buddhism
compassion stands for the ability to fully appreciate one’s own suffering and
the suffering of others. In Judaism compassion says, ‘Kindness gives to another,
Compassion knows no other.’ In Islam compassion stands for helping and
supporting everyone.

In every religion compassion requires
humility and self-control. So if you have humility, self-control, and
compassion altogether you are a good person. You learn these virtues and other
virtues in the process of becoming a black-belt.

EX AMPLES:

  1. When I help my best-friend build
    lego sets.
  2. Helping my friends learn to swing
    on the monkey bars at recess.
  3. If somebody needs help washing the
    tables at lunch I help them.
  4. If a classmate needs help with
    reading I go and help them.
  5. If a friend has fallen down I help
    them up.

Sincerely,

Abir

 

I really like how he looked at this topic from several different angles and then applied them to his life.  Well done Abir!

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Porter’s Black Belt Challenge: Compassion

For his first tip on his Junior Black Belt, Porter had to read the Charter of Compassion and discuss it a little bit.  Here’s what he came up with.

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Hi Master Croley,

Summary of Charter of Compassion:

Compassion is to treat all other as we wish to be treated. To always speak respectfully to others and do not show hatred to one another. Not to be selfish to one another and always be kind.Compassion helps us relate and work better together. Compassion is the way to the creation of justice. That is what I think Compassion is.

What is Compassion and what does it have to do with being a good black belt and person?:

Compassion has to do with being a good person or black belt because if you have no respect to others you will not be liked.You have to display positive attitude towards other because if you do not do this you will not be respected.To be a good black belt or a good person you need to have good leadership and responsibility.That is what I think being a good black belt and person is.  

Thank you,

Porter

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Back to School Bully Busting Project!

School is about to begin! One of the issues that inevitabley pops up when school starts is bullying. With this in mind, for our students self defense project this testing cycle they will be turning in a drawing, photo, or written report on ten ways to effectively deal with a bully. Many of these suggestions can come from www.StopBulliesinAshevilleNOW.org.

Turn in your project soon for a prize from the prize vault!

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Our Theme of This Cycle: Integrity

 

By our definition, Integrity means to always do what you think is right- no matter what everybody else is doing.  Here is a section from our students lesson packet.  

To have Integrity means to follow through with what you know is right. If you know, think, say, and believe what is right…follow through with it. Most of us know what is right.  We have an internal understanding of this. Don’t be fooled by anyone to go against this understanding of what you know inside. You will encounter many individuals who will knowingly or unknowingly attempt to sway you. Sometimes that person will be you. Be disciplined to stick to what is right by thinking and acting appropriately.

Your task for your next belt is 10 acts of Integrity. If you see someone doing or saying something you know is not right, respectfully suggest something or guide them to the right action. This may mean taking someone aside and having a polite discussion, role modeling the right way, writing them a note, pointing out someone else doing the right thing, and what benefits there are to doing so. This is sometimes difficult. However, this is what being a Black Belt Leader signifies: doing your best to live the virtues of the Black Belt all of the time, and showing (Leading the Way) others what benefits there are to doing so. Are you beginning to live by the Student Creed and the virtues of the Black Belt Leader?

Also, this cycle we are workig on defenses against grabs and locks from behind.

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Abe’s Honesty Homework and Reading Assignment.

Not only do our students have to do their kung fu sequence for their next belt, they also have to write down 10 things that they could have lied about but chose to be honest instead as well as to read a martial arts related book.  Here is what Abe had to say about this.

HONESTY

1.  About what I did at home all day.

2.  Whether or not I had seven cups of water.

3.  If I brushed my teeth.

4.  If I exercized.

5.  If I did my chores.

6.  If I practiced Hebrew.

7.  If I fed the cat.

8.  If I fed the dogs.

9.  If I washed my face.

10. If I spent the whole day staring at a computer screen.

And for his reading project:

ABE’S TAKE AWAY FOR IRON AND SILK

I took three things away from this book.

1. Know matter what you are doing one should always get multiple perspectives.

2. One can’t do what they are trying to do if they don’t keep doing it.

3. There is no chance of getting what you want if you don’t ask for it.

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