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The Top 5 Reasons Kids Need Martial Arts Education.

Abe earning his Black Belt.

There are so many reasons these days that kids need to learn martial arts.  In fact, though there are numerous activities that kids can do, there are some very important things that can only be learned in a martial arts training hall.  Here are the top five reasons that your kids need to be in an authentic martial arts training program.

5. Unshakable Self Confidence tempered by Humility.

Self confidence comes from getting good at something.  It could be anything, but people gain confidence from real life successes.  However, what makes Martial Arts education unique in this regard is that not only do students have the opportunity to succeed, they also learn how to defend themselves against violence.  Quite simply, if your kids know that they stand a good chance of coming out on top when faced with a violent bad guy they become more confident.

Not to mention the great physical fitness aspects of Martial Arts training.  When your kid feels better about his or her body, their self confidence will sky rocket.

There is also a huge component of humility.  Martial Arts are unique in that they give students immediate feedback in training.  This gives kids the chance to experience failure as well as success, making the successes real.

An earned success with an understanding of failure breeds self confidence tempered by humility.

4. A keen understanding of how to set goals and reach them.

The use of belts to denote a ranking system was invented by Judo founder Jigaro Kano in the late 1800s. It was such a great idea that many other styles adopted the concept. Yes, it’s a pretty new custom, but a brilliant one.

The great thing about belts is that they provide a measurable goal system with long term goals and a series of short term goals leading up to them. Furthermore, there are specific things that must be accomplished to achieve each goal.

From the belt system, students learn how to set goals, and then build a structure of how to achieve them.  This is an incredibly valuable life skill.

3. How to effectively deal with bullies.

First off, the aforementioned Self Confidence makes Martial Arts students bad targets for bullies. Second, Martial Arts education builds a strategic mind.  This makes the student better able to see through the manipulative behavior of the bully as well as how to deal with the potential for defense against violence.

Also, bullies often lack Self Confidence.  When your kids have Self Confidence they recognize those who don’t and no longer really care about their negative statements.

2. The Strength to rise above life’s challenges and problems.

By experiencing success and failure, learning to set goals, being in great physical shape, and having a keen strategic mind your kids will have the strength to weather life’s storms and the mindset and training to find solutions.

One of the things that I personally teach in every single class is the power of a Positive Attitude,  Best Effort, and Perseverance.

“Nobody can control all of the events in their lives, but with a Positive Attitude you can shape the outcome of any event to your favor.  By putting forth your Best Effort at whatever you are doing you will get better at whatever it is until eventually you get pretty good at it. Perseverance is key, the only way to fail at the positive thing you are trying to accomplish is to quit doing it.”

Me, Every Class.

1. The Personal Power to effect real change for the better.

Everything above leads your kids to one simple conclusion: the power to make things happen, and the moral fiber to make these changes positive ones.  As a parent, all I want for my kids is for them to be happy, fulfilled, contributing members of society.  I’m willing to bet that your thoughts for your kids are pretty similar. To do this, our kids need to develop certain skill sets, build certain mindsets, and create certain personal habits.

I can’t speak for all martial arts schools, but at the White Oak Martial Arts Center we have intentionally and specifically created a curriculum designed to teach our kids the skills necessary to have the  personal power to change their lives for the better.

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If you watch this video, you can really see why an education in the martial arts is one of the best things that you can do for your kids.

At the time it was filmed I was really impressed with how well Abir did.  Look at the coordination, discipline, confidence, and focus he displays here.  The thing is, he didn’t start out his education with us like this.  Nobody does.  He worked at it over time and built these qualities in himself.

You and your kids can do the same thing.  I’ve never met anybody anywhere who regretted earning a  Black Belt.

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Building Black Belt Leaders.

Here is an article about one of our Black Belt candidate students, Max Masiello.  As part of our education and as part of becoming a Black Belt at our school, our students must do some form of community service project.  Max did such a good job that he made the local news.  Of course we also do all of the kicking and punching and kunging fu, but for us being a Black Belt is about a lot more than hitting things.

Here is a link to the article about Max.

http://fairviewtowncrier.com/2012/11/a-winning-project-an-outstanding-young-man-by-lynn-stanley/

 

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Lesson: Self Confidence

For this past testing cycle our students have been working on lessons regarding self confidence.  Their assignment was to list 10 things that they have done right or wrong that has helped build self confidence.

Though all of our students did this assignment, and many of them did a great job, I would have to say that my favorite was Sergio’s project.  Here it is!

 

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Lessons in Mastery: Davidson River Taiko

For our Black Belt students we offer a unique program called “”Lessons in Mastery.”  The concept is simple. What is a master? How do masters think?  What is the path to mastery?

A Master is somebody who perceives themselves and the world around them in a very specific way. It doesn’t matter what somebody is a master of, what is relevant is what they had to do to get there and what they do to stay.

One of the assignments for our students on this quest is to interview a master of something in an effort to figure out what makes them tick.  Here is the assignment.

Porter, one of our Junior Black Belts, choose to speak with a Taiko master.  Here is an example of what he discovered.


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Tattling vs. Getting Help.

At the White Oak Martial Arts Center, we do a great deal of things to help kids deal with being bullied.  Everything from websites, classroom presentation, to empowerment classes- you name it.  One of the things that comes up pretty much every time there is a conversation about bullying is this: what is the difference between tattling and getting help when you need it?  Kids are all told not to tattle, so often times they won’t ask for help when they need it because they are confused about the difference.

It’s simple.  Tattling is when somebody is doing something that is in no way harmful to you or anybody else and you tell on them anyway.  Getting help is when somebody is doing or saying something that is harmful to you or others and you ask an authority figure for help.

Tattling is when the kid next to you in school is doodling and you raise your hand to say, “Mrs. Jones, Bobby is drawing pictures when he should be listening to you.”  Getting help is when Bobby calls you a bad name and takes your lunch money, so you privately go to Mrs. Jones and say, “Mrs. Jones Bobby insulted me and then took my lunch money, can you please help me?”

Discuss this with your kids.

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Here are some other resources on the subject.

http://www.metrokids.com/MetroKids/January-2010/Tattling-Versus-Telling/

http://www.kellybear.com/TeacherArticles/TeacherTip63.html

Black Belt Leaders can ninja on bad guys, but there’s much more….

Our students learn all about dealing with bullies, effective ways to say no to negative influences, and of course how to defend themselves against violence.  However, they also learn how to be contributing members of society, how to be leaders in whatever way is appropriate for them. Here’s what a couple of our Black Belt students did for one of their Lessons in Mastery. Yes, at our school education continues well after you earn your first Black Belt!

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THE SUMARY FOR:

The Charter for Compassion

Compassion means:

Treating people the way you wish to be treated.  “Don’t judge a book by its cover.”  Giving anyone complete justice, respect, and treating them equally as we would care for our family.  Wherever you are, you should always act kindly, avoiding being disrespectful in all ways, and not speaking badly of anyone, including the people we don’t like.  Never miss a chance to be kind and respectful.  Services are a good thing that leads up to compassion.  You do things you want to do, for instance, you go to the store with your parent because you want to, not because you feel you have to.  Helping elders, holding the door for someone, being kind; everything adds up.

We need to eliminate selfishness and bring back compassion and respect.  Selfishness is terrible, because it breaks respect, creates hatred and anger, etc.      Compassion helps a lot of things, and is crucial for human bonds.  It lays out the path to glory and successfulness, and is the ultimate creation of justice.

That is what COMPASSION means.

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The Free Focus Book

Here is a book that is some of the required reading for our Black Belt program. It is completely free and has some great ideas in it, so I thought I’d post it as I think you’ll enjoy reading it.

The ability to focus is the key to accomplishing whatever it is that you set your mind to doing- for work or play.  Having seen the positive results hundreds of times, I can honestly tell you that an education in the martial arts builds focus incredibly well.

So, here is the book. Enjoy!  Free Focus Book.

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Assignment: Positive Attitiude!

At the White Oak Martial Arts Center in Asheville, NC our students not only learn personal defense skills (everything from how to deal with a bully, negative peer pressure, or violence) but also how to be an ethical person who contributes to society in a positive way.  We want our students to be positive role models for everyone they come into contact with.

In fact, for every belt our students have to be able to apply a physical self defense skill, pass a physical fitness test, and complete a positive character trait task. This past cycle we talked about positive attitude.   Here is a short video showing off some of out students assignments, spot lighting Claudia and Bodhi.


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Black Belt Leaders have Self Control.

One of the most valuable things that martial arts students learn is self control, the ability to think before you act.  We do this through the discipline of managing ourselves, and to be honest, learning to manage force, power, and violence.  Most little boys at one time or another turn a banana into a gun, play fight and wrestle, and display other forms of “play violence.”  Little girls do as well, but differently. As a father of only girls I was amazed to learn what girl world is like. It’s a scary place:). Basically, girls are violent as well, but it is much more Machiavellian.

My point is this, violence is an attempt to build power and as humans we seek power.  This in and of itself is not a bad thing, but this power needs to be honed and focused towards positive ends.  This is where a martial arts education in self control is so important.  We address force, power, and violence directly and teach how to control these things, this quest for personal power, and how to shape the power we seek into a positive direction instead of a destructive one.

Here is a short video with this lesson as it will be taught in class.

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