Self defense should not be about paranoia, it should be about mindfulness. A large part of being mindful is to pay attention to what’s happening around you- good and bad. If you are being mindful you are aware enough to enjoy a flower blooming, a child laughing, or an evil bad guy about to do some evil bad guy stuff. I submit to you that by simply paying attention you will see more good things and be better able to avoid bad things.
Another part of being mindful is to be aware of possibilities. Of course you should have a balanced approach to this as well. Plan on and focus on the good things in your life, but prepare for the bad ones so you don’ t need to worry about them. Have a home fire escape plan, have a home bad guy invasion plan, have an estate plan, have personal safety training of some type, all so you don’t have to think about those things very much- you already have a plan and can focus on the positive aspects of your life!
Weapons have been a big deal in the news these days, but in reality your best defense is not what is in your hand, rather it’s what is in your head. Your plan, your strategy, and your intentions are the real self defense tools.
Ignoring bad things doesn’t make them go away, but having a plan to deal with them allows you to live your life in a much happier place. Practice mindful self defense.